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Senior In Home Care Services {and deciding when it’s time}

Seldom does anybody no better than the family when it’s time to consider hiring someone to help their senior family members with their day to day living. Senior in-home care services and deciding when it’s time to seek help can be a touchy subject with many seniors.

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Chances are, they will resist accepting the reality that they are losing the ability to look after themselves as they once did. Some seniors might even think that it’s the beginning of the end.

Senior In Home Care Services {and deciding when it's time}
With in home care it’s possible to still enjoy quality of life.

However, that isn’t necessarily so. Just because some things have become difficult for a senior to manage does not mean they can’t live for many more years and still enjoy a reasonable quality of life.

INDICATIONS THAT A SENIOR NEEDS HELP AT HOME

The people who know a senior best will be able to look for tell-tale signs that indicate that their senior requires help. Tasks that were once easily-managed have become difficult.

In most cases, a senior will act out of character and often this is the first warning sign that family caregivers should be looking out for.

Here are the most common issues that can indicate that things are not quite right.

  • Problems Keeping Track of Time A senior might completely forget what time of day it is. They miss appointments or perhaps fail to take their medication at the proper time.
  • Oversleeping A night’s sleep doesn’t seem to be enough and a senior spends much of the day sleeping.
  • Doesn’t Eat Enough Perhaps cooking becomes too much of a chore, or a senior simply forgets when they last ate. Weight loss is an indicator that something is not quite right as far as nutrition. Very little healthy food in the home.
  • Mood Swings They go from happy to sad in a matter of seconds. Or perhaps a senior becomes argumentative.
  • Mobility Issues Simple tasks become more difficult. Standing up from a seated position, walking and overall balance become issues.
  • Injuries A senior has bruises or cuts and is unable to explain how they happened.
  • Confusion Tasks that at one time were simple to do become confusing and difficult.
  • Scam Victim Seniors can become confused and often become targets of scammers. Seniors who at one time could tell if someone was trying to scam them are no longer able to tell the difference.
  • Many seniors also make mistakes with their medication and this can be very serious. Forgetting to take medication can be very serious. Often, it’s one of the main things caregivers worry about. However, there is an amzing product that can benefit both the senior and caregiver.

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Senior In Home Care Services {and deciding when it's time}
Signs of confusion may indicate a senior is having trouble coping.

OVERALL HYGIENE

Even the simplest thing that a senior has been doing for years might suddenly become ignored or forgotten. The lack of interest in taking care of their personal hygiene should sound alarm bells for family members.

Here are some of the most common indications that the senior is no longer paying attention to hygiene.

  • Body Odor Seniors might forget to follow through on their daily routines like having a bath or a shower.
  • Personal Grooming There is a noticeable difference in the appearance of a senior. They forget to brush their teeth, their hair is messy, or nails are not trimmed.
  • Clothing Issues Their clothing is dirty or stained. Perhaps they wear the same thing day after day.

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In Home Caregiver.

NEGLECTING DAILY CHORES

Everyday tasks might appear to become difficult for seniors. It’s almost as if they have lost focus on what they are supposed to do each day.

Here are a few of the tell-tale signs that family members should be on the lookout for that might indicate things are not quite right.

  • Forget to Shop For Groceries There is seldom healthy food around as shopping trips are few and far between.
  • Messy House Cleaning the home becomes an afterthought and eventually the house becomes very dirty and cluttered.
  • Dishes Piling Up Dirty dishes are everywhere as they are no longer being washed on a daily basis.
  • Unopened Mail is left unopened and piling up and as a result, bills are not being paid. Utilities turned off.
  • Unsafe Driving Dents and scratches begin to appear all over the car.

ADVANTAGES OF IN HOME CARE SERVICE

With in home care service seniors are able to remain in the family home much longer before having to decide on some sort of assisted living or independent living facility.

It takes much of the stress off of family caregivers who are often dealing with physical, emotional, and mental stress resulting from trying to live life on two fronts.

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In home care providers can allow family caregivers a much needed break.

In case of a medical emergency, there will be someone there to ensure the proper action is taken.

The senior will have fairly regular company and will not suffer from the loneliness that comes with being on their own day after day.

There will be someone there to ensure the senior takes their prescription medication in the proper doses and at the right time of day, and also to encourage them to exercise on a regular basis.

With in home care, there will be someone to ensure the senior pay attention to personal hygiene and eats nutritional meals on a regular basis.

WHY SOME SENIORS RESIST OUTSIDE CAREGIVERS

Many seniors will resist caregivers from outside the family. The senior may become difficult to manage and in some cases downright rude to caregivers who are just trying to do their best.

Senior In Home Care Services {and deciding when it's time}
In home caregivers should be able to deal with dementia or mobility issues.

They might feel deserted by family caregivers and that can lead to resentment.

It’s important to get to the bottom of the reasons for the resentment. Often it’s just a matter of sitting down and explaining the value of having an in home caregiver who is not a family member. Let’s face it, caregivers need to rest. They cannot continue to work 60+ hour weeks as they balance life on two fronts.

It should be explained to the senior that the family will still be involved with the caregiving, but just on a lesser scale.

Most of all, a senior should be reminded that having an in home caregiver will allow them to stay in their own home much longer. This is an important point to make because some seniors may see an in home caregiver as an indicator they are losing independence when in fact the opposite is true.

By having someone caring for them they are actually able to stay independent longer and will not have to move into an assisted living facility.

Ultimately, family members should do all they can to find an in home caregiver who is well-trained and a good match for their senior. For example, if a senior is suffering from Dementia it’s important to have a caregiver who has experience in dealing with seniors who suffer from it.

Senior In Home Care Services {and deciding when it's time}
A senior may need reassurance an in home caregiver is there to help them.

The same would apply if a senior has hearing, vision, or mobility issues. The more experience an in home caregiver has dealt with the different health issues that many seniors deal with, the better.

It’s also important that the senior be somewhat involved with the hiring process if possible. It would make a huge difference if a family member were present the first few times a newly hired caregiver spends time with the senior.

This would make for a much smoother transition as the senior would have a chance to get to know the new caregiver with family members there for support.

Ultimately, the senior will need to be reassured that they will be well looked after and have no need to fear a new person coming into their life. Especially someone who has their best interests at heart.

Would you like to share your thoughts on this topic? Feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page.

8 comments / Add your comment below

  1. That’s a good idea to get a caregiver that would have experience with the issues that you are having. I feel like that would get you the best help possible. I’ll have to remember that if I ever need a personal nurse.

    1. Thank you for your comment, Tyler. I really believe that any time a caregiver is hired they should be well-vetted as they are taking on a very big responsibility.

  2. I like how you mentioned that in-home care is great if there is a medical emergency. My mother is getting older and I’m worried she might have an emergency at home. I’ll be sure to look for potential in-home services to help her if anything were to happen.

    1. Thank you for your comment, Devin! Yes, for sure try and find an in-home service for ensuring there is help in the event of an emergency. One I like in particular is called Iamfine. They will call every day to ensure things are okay, and if there is no answer after several tries they will contact a pre-determined friend of a family member.

    1. Thank you for your comment, Stefan! I almost think someone other than a family member would be more patient. My reasoning is that they do it for a living and a family member is usually trying to survive life on two fronts. This can make them impatient, angry, or resentful.

    1. Hi Callum. Thank you for your comment! Eventually, it will probably come down to a decision to provide professional in-home care or perhaps consider an independent living facility. If she is able to look after herself, for the most part, an independent facility might be ideal. They provide plenty of activities, good food, and lots of company. Many seniors can get very lonely if they live on their own. Plus there is medical staff available 24/7 at most of them. As far as cost, independent living can be quite expensive, but on the other hand, most in-home care is just for during the day.

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